How do we motivate ourselves to do things we are afraid of?

How do we motivate ourselves? It spins an awfully lot of videos on Facebook today about motivation. Today I received a video in my feed where a woman mentioned that the motivation does not exist. Every time we are faced with a decision we hesitate if we do not feel comfortable. And I can relate to this.

I have several times had a good idea, while just before I would say it I hesitated. Why is the thing I would have said important? It’s easier to just be quiet, right?

But what this sends is a signal that motivation does not exist. Because we still hesitate when we are about to say or do something, It does not help how motivated you are to say your opinion.

What then is the most important?

The most important thing is to have an informed why, why am I doing this? When I look at myself, I found a why in that I want to mediate training theory to people who need it, for them to have the opportunity to move closer to their optimal level.  And this helps me in the decisions I have to face something that is hard.

For it’s precisely the decisions that determine the direction of our direction in life,  If we think about it, we are only one decision away from a completely different life.  One decision from if I’m going to be married, one decision from whether I should leave home. One decision from if I’m going to drive fast on the freeway. Or one decision from whether I shall win or lose.

One decision…

Too often we choose what seems to be the simple way for us, not to have to take some tough decisions. This is a road that we will be better off to take. This is a way that allows one to slip through life with the decisions that someone else has taken for them.

When we get to performance in sports this is most important as there is none other than our self that can make these important decisions. And therefore it is important to learn to be uncomfortable. Yes, to learn. This is not something we are born with, but it is something we learn. And the same with all learning is to practice it several times. Failure is not defeat, on the contrary. It strengthens us for the next tough decision.

Win or disappear

Have you heard the saying before? It is partly a matter of fact, when it comes to strikeouts in some sports, but also a saying how important it is to dare to win. There is certainly a history of you reading this when you checked on a notification list for a competition and seen someone who is good and you have thought: oh well, that person is here. Then it is not so good for me today. I myself has thought it.

I would like to press hard on that it is absolutely not always the result that counts. But performance. What should I do today to perform as good as possible? What should I learn today’s that makes the training better for tomorrow? The thing I think is a contributing factor for not thinking like this is that you do not know what factors affect your performance.

If we had known all the factors, we had also been able to make the decisions that would have made our performance as good as possible. And to know what to focus your training on to be better the next time. For there is always something that affects our performance, positive or negative, that we can learn from.

What is it that has influenced you?

Examples of factors:

I am enough trained? How do you know if you are there? Stamina, endurance, strength. Arms, abdomen, legs.

Can I run a half a marathon fast enough? What is a good time per mile?

What preparations did I do before a race? Who’s there? Is everything packed, shoe laces, the right food for recovery.

Has anything around me disturbed my thoughts before a competition? Family / Relationships, a lot of work, tests in school.

There are a variety of other factors, but I think you are with me in my though when it comes to this part. If we can pinpoint what hampered our performance we have greater opportunities to influence it to the next time.

And as you are aware of the decisions you have made have been right for you, you have done something that you did not dare previously, you tried and failed but you feel that it was okay. You have then instead increases the motivation to continue. Which also increases the confidence in what you do and the feeling that you are on the right path strengthens one to dare to win.

Link to a great video regarding this topic

Mel Robbins

Mel Robbins, why motivation is garbage

See also:

marathon

Principle of load and recovery